I knew early on that information was going to be important to me and everyone else. So I hope you find illumination in these pages to keep you safe, healthy, inspired and happy. In early February, my husband said that the corona virus finally got his attention. I thought to myself, “Yea, now I can… Read More
As a therapist, I can see that the nature of a couple’s union has changed over the last 20 years. Fewer couples feel the need to officially marry and women are in a more active and sometimes dominant role as the breadwinner of the family. But what hasn’t changed is the need and desire for… Read More
Princess Diana: The Death of True Love, The Birth of a New Love
Now that it is twenty years since the death of Princess Diana, I have been thinking about the meaning of those events. I cried as I watched the funeral. I had a deep inner sense that not only had we lost a valuable and special person, but also that the dream of a fairy tale… Read More
Discover Winning Relationship Skills From Couples Counseling
My patient Kathy sat on one side of me in tears, crying. On the other side sat her husband, Peter, with their newborn baby and he clearly wasn’t sure what to do. They were both tired and frustrated so they quickly made an appointment when Kathy’s sister recommended they see me for couples counseling. I immediately… Read More
Work it Out – with a Lot Less Pain
When I first heard about the idea of routine and core issues, it didn’t seem that important. But when I used it in my relationship and in my practice, I got excited. It made tons of sense and it really did help my husband and me cool down potentially heated arguments. Then I found that… Read More
In Only One Session
Every couple has their own unique issues when they come into see me. But how couples treat each other is not unique. This is where I can help couples become relationship experts so they can discover how to have a successful, long-lasting, happy relationship. With one particular couple I was very happy to find out… Read More
Staying Sane during the Season
Sometimes there are just too many things on your plate and you’re not one of them. It is so hard to stop and take care of ourselves sometimes. It is too easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of things. So here are some ideas that I have found helpful and you… Read More
Leave her Begging for More – What Women Really Want
How to Really Leave her Begging for More: The Science of Pleasure There is a belief among men that a session of wild sex that is incredibly exciting will leave a woman begging for more and attached to him for the rest of her life. There are great sexual athletes out there and they may… Read More
What Helps You be Mindful Into Your Senses and Brings You Joy?
Do you ever let your inner natural child out? It can be so healing and put you back into that centered happy zone that you deserve to be in. I believe that every adult has a right to be that natural child sometimes. Norman Cousins said he healed his cancer through laughter. It was his… Read More
Can Senior Sex be the Best Sex?
Is there sex after 60? Often the answer to that question depends on who you’re talking to. Younger people may think it stops at 50 while those in their 50’s may say 70 or 80. And some people say, “Great sex never stops. It only gets better.” In my experience with a wide range of… Read More
Peace and Goodwill–at Home: How to Handle Three Trouble Spots
The holidays are upon us, but what should be a happy time can often be very stress filled and emotionally draining for couples. A big source of upset is that we tend to have very strong expectations of ourselves and our partner about what should happen during the holidays. In my practice I have found… Read More
What Does Your Love Life Say About Your Relationship?
Sometimes the first indication that something is wrong in your relationship is that one or both of you no longer want sex and your love life is suffering. It is typically the woman, but I have worked with men who have responded this way too. Couples come in saying, “My partner doesn’t seem interested in… Read More
How to Succeed in the new relationship?
When my favorite aunt was in school learning to be a nurse, most of the women in her class expected to work a little while after finishing school, then get married, quit working and have children. By the time I went to nursing school, most of the students planned to make a lasting career of… Read More
The Language of Presents
Presents come with a message. They can say, I love you. I care about you. I want you to lose weight. You are special to me. I am very successful and impressive. Sometimes the message is extremely clear with old ads for presents. Amazingly Sexist Ads Some vintage ads from the 1950’s and 60’s really… Read More
Stuck in a Loveless Relationship? How to Reignite Love
What happens if you decide that being in love is not something that happens to you, but something that you do? Many couples who have been together for many years feel like they are stuck in a loveless relationship and they are just going through the motions. This can happen when a couple is caught… Read More
Does Marriage Counseling Work?
Couples In Trouble Couples whose relationship is in trouble are scared and desperate for help, but they are also worried. Just the other day a couple came in to see me and said, “We’re really scared to start marriage counseling because we’ve heard that people break up when they go into counseling. And we don’t… Read More