Understanding Delayed Ejaculation
By
Karen Gless, Ph.D., LMFT, RN
We all know that some women have trouble having an orgasm during intercourse, but did you know that some men have the same problem? It’s called delayed ejaculation (DE) and it’s just as hard for a man to deal with it as it is for a woman.
How a couple deals with the problem depends on the cause. For instance, if DE is caused by an injury, that calls for a different response than dealing with psychological causes. And it may be surprising, but did you know that a lot of DE is caused by a strict religious upbringing?
My article shows how understanding the causes of DE and dealing with them honestly can go a long way to keeping the relationship healthy and happy. And in case you’re wondering, yes, some men with DE do fake orgasm.
Hi, I am Dr. Karen Gless, PhD, MFT, RN, I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC21423), and a Registered Nurse. Since 1985 I have had a successful practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA.. My focus is on brief therapy whenever possible. The basic values I follow in my therapy are being: Warm, Caring, and Effective Specialities: Relationship counseling Sexual problems Effective communication for couples Intimacy issues Lack of Sexual Desire Orgasmic Difficulties Sex Addiction Incest/Abuse Survivors Impotence Premature Ejaculation Depression therapy Anxiety therapy Stress therapy Services: Couples Therapy Marital Therapy Individual Therapy EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Sex Therapy Hypnotherapy EFT As a marriage counselor in San Diego, I strive to help couples understand their relationship more deeply and fashion the tools they need to create healthy, happy, fulfilling relationships Happy couples feel fulfilled in their lives together. They say they experience intimacy, love and mutual sexual fulfillment and satisfaction. Because I see relationships as a natural crucible for growth, transformation and creativity, I have helped many couples understand their relationship in marriage counseling in new ways so that they can resolve their conflicts and grow together. If you are looking for a professional relationship therapist or sex therapist in San Diego, Ca., get in touch with me and I will be happy to help. History Established in 1985. Dr.Gless, Ph.D. has been in private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1985. For marriage counseling she with her husband developed Couples Emotional Process Therapy (CEPT) a relationship counseling system that combines the best in scientific research with practical experience. In counseling couples and helping them explore the potential of their relationship, Dr. Gless has worked to gain insights and fashion tools to help couples create a healthy, happy, fulfilling relationship. She uses trance work as a special way of unlocking individual and shared creativity. She has written many articles on counseling relationships, appeared on TV shows, given TV, radio and internet interviews and has even been quoted in Cosmopolitan Magazine.
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I find the subject of delayed ejaculation very interesting. I have found that giving TOTAL control of penis to a strong, dominant female quite exciting and gratifying. Giving HER control of when I am allowed to become erect and when I am allowed ejaculate is extremely exciting. I have learned to control my erections and ejaculate ONLY WHEN GIVEN EXPRESS PERMISSION TO DO SO! Holding back my ejaculation when ordered to do so pleases HER greatly, and being able to follow her command provides great pleasure to myself.